Two weeks ago, some guy blogger posted a long and insulting article stating that guys should never date girls with short hair because those girls are basically worthless disasters. In that same article he begged girls to grow their hair out stating very clearly that no woman was ever better looking with short hair and it is always unattractive. Articles like this tick me off, to say the least.
As someone who is currently growing my hair long but has had a wide variety of short haircuts over the years I know for a fact the decision to cut your hair short does not automatically boil down to some cry for help.
I’ve cut my hair short to give me a greater feeling of confidence. When my hair is short there is less to hide behind. And in breaking the expected mold I’ve felt better able to overcome the shyness that has plagued me forever.
I’ve cut my hair because I needed a life change. There are times when we all need to do something to restart ourselves, to refocus, to begin again. Several years ago when I moved to a new city I lobbed off my hair as a way to illustrate the life change I was going through.
I’ve cropped my hair short because it was easier to maintain. Jumping around managing leadership camps during the summer means I have little time for beauty maintenance. Let’s me honest - long hair takes time. You can’t just wash it and walk out of the house. It needs to dry, which takes a while when it gets long. It often needs to be stylized. And let’s not even talk about the time it takes to shampoo and condition it properly.
I’ve cut my hair short to alleviate the headaches I often get. Long hair can be a heavy burden to carry and ponytails can be painful. More often than not I’ll have a splitting headache by the end of the day when I pull my hair back in any manner.
I’ve had friends who shaved their heads for a handful of noble reasons. One was battling cancer and couldn’t face the idea of losing it piece by piece. One shaved it all off in solidarity with her mother who was losing the fight to cancer. With only a few months to live they went hairless together.
And just to refute a few of his other claims…
Contrary to this guy’s opinion, not every woman looks good with long hair. Maybe that’s his personal preference but it is not a solid fact. Once when I had a particularly great short hair cut I had to present my ID at the airport. The ID picture was me with my long curly hair. The guy took one look at me and then the ID, back and forth a few times. Finally he said ‘You’re rocking that look now. It’s hot. Short hair is good on you.’ I’m growing my hair out as an experiment right now but I do think it looks better short.
Still, I do think it’s true that the majority of guys do prefer long hair. But I know a number of guys who are always into the girl with short locks. Growing up my dad was telling us girls to grow our hair out, to keep it long. Guys only liked long hair.
But you know what I’ve come to realize? Who cares if guys like it long or short? The real question is how do I like my hair? How do you like your hair? If some guy won’t date you or is uninterested because you hair doesn’t make his length criterion, well he can just go elsewhere. I dress and keep my hair in the way I like. There are enough things in life to spend time on, worrying about my hair length is not worth a minute of time.
And lastly, this guy claims all women lie to one another about short hair looking good as a way to weed out competition in the dating field. Ugh. Don’t make me laugh! (Why does it always have to go back to guys and dating?) Honestly, I can say that girls will be honest to each other about the short hair look. I’ve had some haircuts that got me rave compliments and encouragement from my friends. And others that got a pretty swift thumbs down. That’s what good friends are for - truth telling.
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You are hot no matter what you do and as Randy Travis once said, “If it all falls out, I’ll love you anyway!”
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Wow an awful article. Great post and great rebuttal to his stupid claims. I think someone look GORGEOUS with short hair - Halle Berry. I agree that a hair cut should be based on your decision rather than the guy you’re dating. I recently cut off about 7 inches because my long hair was getting annoying to maintain and I’m wearing my hair down a lot this winter. The stylist asked “what inspired the big change?” like I had gone through a break up or something lol I’m like… “uhh just want less hair?” Nothing dramatic happened that inspired me. It was more a practical reason knowing I cut my hair maybe twice a year so it will grow out by the summer when I’ll be putting it up in buns constantly.
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You go girl. I think so many women look AMAZING with short hair! You are one of them.
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Help, I’ve been informed and I can’t become igotnarn.
Excellent post! You nailed it here: “Who cares if guys like it long or short?”
Can you imagine guys wondering if women like it long or short? (their hair, their hair!)
Women are socialized to prioritize their appearance and looks. Men are not. If this were not the sad reality of it, imagine how our world would be different. (May have something to do with why you never run across *catty* men.)
The whole thing is an unhealthy social construct.
You look gorgeous in that short haircut as well as the long hair. I wasn’t allowed to cut my hair short when I was young, but when I grew up and went to college I cut it short—like pixie cut short-and kept it that way for almost 15 years. If that guy had tried to say it was because I was unstable, I probably would have kicked him where it counts and proved him right. HA!
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I cut my hair into a pixie last year. I’m growing it now but I liked it short.
Personally, I had a traumatic experience with my mother giving me a bowl cut when I was 8, and I have refused to cut my hair other than a trim since…..until my bff fried half it off a months back. I felt so naked and exposed, even with shoulder length hair. It’s definitely an adjustment. But profiling people on their hair is just riddiculous.
Wow! That guy had issues!
I prefer my hair long, as does my husband. For me, it’s easier to maintain and do something with. I’d LOVE to be able to chop it, and keep it looking civilised, but that is never going to happen. So, I wear it at the length yours is now, and chop layers/bangs in and grow them out to keep it from driving me too bonkers.
Just what the doctor ordeder, thankity you!
The guy who stated that is obviously full of it! My husband doesn’t have a preference…whatever is easiest for me. Right now I am wearing it closer to a bob, as I haven’t had long hair in who knows how long? Personally, from your pics, I prefer the short short hairstyle on you! Hope that doesn’t add confusion to the matter!
Deb
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You look lovely no matter what, I think both long and short hairstyles suit you. I don’t know what it is about guys who need to write stuff like that to boast their ego. It’s probably some way to deal with their own shortcomings, I think.
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